Still Becoming: This Wasn’t the Plan (But Maybe That’s Okay)
Staying on track, even when the track keeps shifting.
When I was younger, I thought there’d be a point where it all just… settled.
A clear direction.
A step-by-step.
A version of me that had everything figured out.
And for the most part, I’ve stayed on track.
I did well in school. I got the prestigious degree. I started the business.
I’ve followed the plan I had in my head – or at least a version of it.
But what I’ve learned is that even when you’re “on track,”
the track itself keeps moving.
The plan isn’t broken. It’s just constantly evolving.
The goalposts shift. The definitions change.
What success looked like five years ago doesn’t feel the same today – and that’s not failure. That’s growth.
Every day, I wake up and adjust.
Some days, I’m full of clarity and purpose.
Other days, I’m questioning it all and trying to make the next best move.
And most days, I land somewhere in between – doing my best, trying to be proud of what I’ve accomplished (even when it doesn’t look like much on paper).
I know… I’m only 23.
If you’re a little further down the road, you might be thinking, “Of course the track keeps moving – you haven’t even hit the hard turns yet.”
And maybe that’s true.
But here’s what I’ve realized:
No matter your age, the track you’re on is still your first time riding it.
Every twist, every detour, every slow climb or unexpected drop – it’s new. For all of us.
Some people are years in. Others are just getting started.
But no matter where you are, the journey is still unfolding. And that, in its own chaotic way, is kind of beautiful.
That’s what becoming really feels like.
It’s not a switch that flips.
It’s a quiet unfolding.
We don’t arrive all at once.
We arrive in moments – through detours, small wins, disappointments, late nights, hard conversations, and unexpected breakthroughs.
I used to think there would be a point in life where you feel “done”.
Like one day, I’d wake up and just be the person I always thought I would be.
But the further down the track I get, the more I think I never will be.
I’m still learning. Still shifting.
Still figuring out who I want to be – and what that even means.
And honestly? I’m okay with that.
Because I’d rather be in motion than stuck pretending I’ve arrived.
A Few Things I’m Learning
I’m still in the thick of it, but here are some lessons that have stuck with me lately:
The plan is allowed to change.
It doesn’t mean you’re lost. It means you’re listening. To yourself. To your life. To what matters right now — not just what you said you'd do five years ago.
You can be proud of your progress, even if you’re not “there” yet.
We celebrate milestones, but we forget to celebrate maintenance – showing up, trying again, adjusting without giving up.
You are not behind.
Even if it feels like it. Especially if it feels like it. Everyone’s timeline is different, and most people are just as uncertain as you – they just post less about it ;)
Becoming never really ends.
There is no final version of you. And thank who or whatever you pray to for that. You’re allowed to grow out of goals. You’re allowed to reinvent. You’re allowed to start again.
Take care of the person doing the becoming.
Rest. Reflect. Be kind to yourself. Don’t treat your ambition like an emergency.
And enjoy the small things – the walk, the coffee, the quiet moment with someone you love – because the older you get, the more you realize those “small things” are the ones you remember most.
They’re not just part of life – they are life.
So if you’re here too – chasing something, adjusting the plan, doubting yourself, dreaming big – you’re not behind.
You’re just still becoming.
And maybe that’s exactly where we’re supposed to be.
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